Winding Down

 Mike was up to have breakfast together.  We were able to share thoughts and discuss things before I went out to campus to take care of hte loose ends there. Maria, who arrived at 8AM, helped prepare breakfast.  He takes the minimum of his meds, and we made his favorite veggie sausage patty.  



Mike was animated and attentive as we both see the close of our life together.  He has had his lifelong companion to the end of his life.  I will have to cherish the time we had together.


When I got back from campus, Mike was very sleepy and took the afternoon quietly.  He requested that I find out what is happening at the pharmacy that will prepare the potion for him. He is concerned that they have not communicated with us.   The call turned out to be complicated; ultimately, they were able to say that by early afternoon, they will have the preparation ready and will call.  There is a procedure and I now have the plan that includes 2 preparatory prescriptions an hour before the final draft.   

Later, I worked on a proposal review that I had taken on while Mike rested.  

Connie comes at 5 and relieves Maria for the day.  I continued to work beside Mike, and Connie cleaned up in the kitchen.  Later, we prepared the last supper, only this without the disciples.  He had a little soup, his Smooth Move, along with his essential meds.  Tonight, no Clausthaler beer.




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  1. GregDecember 17, 2025 at 2:33 PM

    I’ve just learned been updated about this and wanted to share my concerns for both you and Mike

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  2. Santa Cruz Island ReserveDecember 17, 2025 at 7:33 PM

    Aloha Anabel, our hearts are with yours as you go through this final journey with Mike. He is loved and will be missed by many. We shared so many great island memories with Mike. Stay strong and know his spirit will always be with you. Sending prayer. David and Lynn

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  3. Al KnightDecember 18, 2025 at 8:00 PM

    Damn. Thanks for everything Mike. Aloha. See you on the Other Side.

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