The Empty Chair


 How many times have we sat across from each other, sharing the morning paper, discussing our day's plans.  Now it is empty yet my heart is full of our love.



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  1. Al KnightDecember 19, 2025 at 1:38 PM

    Heartbreaking. All my love . . .

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  2. Cecilia FordDecember 19, 2025 at 2:26 PM

    light and love

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  3. Clark WerneckeDecember 21, 2025 at 8:38 AM

    Mel and I were devastated to hear of Mike's passing. I have a lot of fond memories of our road trips. We are thinking of you now....

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  4. Debi and ChristophDecember 21, 2025 at 9:05 AM

    Ouch.

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  5. MackoDecember 21, 2025 at 1:54 PM

    I've thought of you both with fondness and appreciation over the years for having been a part of the UCSB ecological archaeology community developed and perpetuated by Mike. You'll continue in my heart.

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